Chief Executive Officer’s Perspective: The Value of Friendship

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“Make new friends but keep the old. One is silver and the other is gold.”

                                                                                       –Joseph Parry

We often have friends that we don’t see every day, yet when we do, we are able to pick up right where we left off – as if it was only yesterday. Friends like that are treasures, more valuable and precious than gold.

With all the stress, tragedy, and uncertainty of our world (which are only compounded by the nature of our profession), it is at times a real struggle to maintain a sense of normalcy. Sometimes it is all we can do to maintain our sanity. Then you throw the pandemic into the mix… We need those dear old friends now more than ever.

Now is the time for us to band together and rely on each other for support and tools to make it through this unprecedented time. While you are at it, why don’t you try to expand your sphere of close friends. TCDLA is the perfect place to both stay connected with old friends, as well as being fertile grounds to reach out and develop new relationships.

With an upcoming election, a seemingly unending pandemic, and the uncertainty of what the new normal will be in our practices, there will be many opportunities for us to share our positions and thoughts. We all have biases no matter what race, religion, or gender you are – these are facts. I encourage everyone to make new friends and take a moment to remind ourselves that it is OK to think differently. Share your thoughts, explain to someone while starting a healthy conversation where you both listen and hear each other – respectful debates are okay. This last month, I have learned so many things and realized I have biases and am learning how to acknowledge them to strip them away. I am also focusing on my personal growth and understanding the effects the pandemic is having on my mental health and taking stress to another level.

I recently talked with my mother about everything that was going on, and she made several comments that made me take a step back and process what she said. Mom has always had a narrow view of how things should be. The responses and opinions she gave surprised me because I never thought she would be open to change, or open to considering the positions of people who think differently than her. It was not only encouraging, it was heartwarming: We could have a discussion that would not end in an argument or hurt feelings.

At the end of the day, especially during these times, we all need friendship and a place we can go to talk, vent, and commiserate – especially with people who should understand us like nobody else can. We are all struggling with the lack of interaction and the challenges of today’s new norm. More than ever, we need to be kinder, hear the pleas for attention, and reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague. I challenge you to check in with someone each day, start your morning off by doing something for somebody else. Surround yourself with positivity, and those will be the gold and silver of old and new TCDLA provides!

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Melissa J. Schank
Melissa J. Schank
Melissa J. Schank, Chief Executive Officer, has worked with nonprofit associations for over 20 years, and has been with the Texas Criminal Defense Lawyers Association more than 15 years. She earned her master’s of human resources, business administration, bachelor’s of communication and mediation certificate from Saint Edwards University in Austin, Texas, and is a certified association executive. Her greatest strengths are overseeing the long-term planning, financial management, and strategy for legal educational programs, in addition to managing the organization’s seminars, membership, publication, and communication departments.
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